On love and God and being a North Carolinian05/10/2012 at 8:59 am | Posted in me | 24 Comments
Tags: Amendment One
I realized it halfway to work on Tuesday morning. Smack in the middle of one of the biggest intersections in town.
I forgot to vote.
So I turned around and drove to my neighborhood polling site.
It was pretty empty. I scuttled past the campaigners, got my ballot and filled in the little circles next to my candidates of choice. But I was really there for the last item on the page. Amendment One.
I read it. Re-read it. Scribbled furiously in the circle next to “AGAINST” and triple-checked that I had done it correctly.
And then, about 12 hours later, it became abundantly clear that I was in the minority.
The thirty percent of our state’s citizens who turned out to vote on Tuesday passed a constitutional amendment that declares heterosexual marriage to be the ONLY legally recognized union in North Carolina.
As I watched my Facebook and Twitter feeds explode with anger and grief that night, I sat stunned. I’m still stunned.
I simply can’t believe that equality for all is still so out of reach.
Women receive less pay for equal work. Our county school system is under threat of segregation. And now gay and lesbian couples can’t get married here. On top of that, Amendment One harms ALL couples joined in domestic unions outside marriage AND their children.
It strips people of their rights.
How is this still possible? It’s 2012.
Will my generation ever see equality? Will my daughters’ generation witness it?
I never, ever discuss politics or controversial issues on the internet. And my blog is one of the most benign out there. On purpose. But my heart is so very heavy. And I’m afraid of what Amendment One means for the people I love and all the people I’ve never even met.
I believe that God loves us all and wants us to treat each other fairly, with equality and respect, regardless of race, sexual orientation, gender or creed.
I believe that my daughters deserve a future in which they will be granted equal rights, whether they choose to marry men or women or not marry at all.
I believe that my state made a mistake, and I am hopeful for change. I love North Carolina.
I believe that the government and the voters govern our state and our nation. Not the Bible.
I believe that religion is very personal and very diverse. And it transcends law and politics.
I believe in kindness and respect and helping your fellow human being.
I believe that love is love.
LOVE IS LOVE.