Tags: alice laussade, dallas observer news, Moms gone wired article
This article, in today’s Dallas Observer News, rocks my world. So many people (I was one, not even a year ago) don’t know about mommy blogs and don’t understand what many of us are trying to accomplish with our time on the Web. This article tells it like it is. And, hello, how great is this line: “Yeah. I made that with my magic lady body. Jealous?”
Tags: body image, Tina Fey, Vogue magazine
She had this to say, in the March issue of Vogue:
“I don’t weigh myself. I just go by if my clothes fit. I try not to participate too much in the incredible amount of wasted energy that women have around dealing with food. I just feel like being healthy is sort of a job requirement to be on TV, and being a writer is so much coping with fatigue and stress, and you just eat. You eat to stay awake.”
“People will say, ‘Oh, fashion magazines are so bad, they’re giving girls a negative message’—but we’re also the fattest country in the world, so it’s not like we’re all looking at fashion magazines and not eating. Maybe it just starts a shame cycle: I’m never going to look like that model, so…Chicken McNuggets it is! And conversely, I don’t look at models who are crazy skinny and think I want to look like that, because a lot of them are gigantic, with giant hands and feet. Also, my dad is an artist—a painter by hobby—and I constantly would see realistic nudes. Because we were raised around art and went to museums and the women I grew up around were curvy…there wasn’t this value on skinny, skinny, skinny. Curvy was clearly meant to be the winner. I go up and down a few pounds with a relative amount of kindness to myself. And I have a daughter, and I don’t want her to waste her time on all of that.”
Tags: pediatricians, postpartum anxiety, postpartum depression, PPD, USA Today
This article in USA Today (via @unxpctblessing) really strikes a chord with me because our pediatrician was the first one to notice my postpartum depression symptoms. He triggered the chain of events that saved me.
At Small Fry’s three-week check-up, he gave me a standard questionnaire for new moms. I wept quietly while checking off those boxes. My results pointed to a postpartum mood disorder.
Before we left the appointment, the doctor talked with me. He asked me questions that no one else had asked yet. “How often do you cry?” “What is a typical day like for you?” He told me my test results and advised me to talk to my physician.
Then, for the next few weeks, several different pediatric nurses called the house to check on me. They sent flyers about support group meetings and asked me to check back in with them. When I didn’t call back, they hounded me.
I’ll never forget a conversation with my favorite nurse, our lactation consultant. Listening to me sob and trying to convince me to get the help I needed (which I’d resisted — too headstrong/afraid to admit that something was wrong with me), she used an analogy that finally got through my thick head. It’s like being on an airplane when the oxygen masks drop down, she said. You MUST put on your mask first in order to put one on your baby.
OH. It finally hit me. I have to help myself in order for Small Fry to thrive and be happy.
Thank God for those nurses. And thank God for Small Fry’s doctor. Of course my family and friends (and my own doctor, when I finally worked up the nerve to see her) were HUGE factors in my recovery. But I needed a medical professional to convince me that something was really wrong. I needed scientifically backed opinions and advice in order for me to finally seek help. I’m stubborn like that.
Without our pediatrician and nurses, I can’t imagine how long it would have taken me to get help. I needed to be pushed. And they never gave up.
Tags: children's books
Although Small Fry tends to ask for the same books over and over and over (and over again), a few new ones have squeezed into our rotation since I last published her book list. At 23 months old, she has a bit more patience for longer books and also still loves her lift-the-flap ones, too. My new favorite is Bedtime Mouse by Sandol Stoddard. These lines make me smile every time I read them out loud:
Did you know about sky?
Did you know
There are skies in your eyes?
Did you know
There are moons?
Did you know there are moons in the skies of
your eyes whenever you shut them?
Did you know there are faces and places you’ve
seen and surprises
That your eyes are forever keeping
While you are sleeping?
Here are Small Fry’s current favorites. Any suggestions for new books to try?
Tags: CDH, congenital diaphragmatic hernia, Parker Reese Foundation
This is an incredible story of turning unthinkable loss into hope for others. I can’t even imagine.
Tags: Michelle Young
I was skimming my Twitter feed this afternoon when this sentence jumped off the screen and smacked me in the face: “The husband of Michelle Young, a Wake County woman killed in her home 3 years ago, has been charged with murder.”
My breath caught in my throat and goosebumps instantly covered my arms. I had to shut my office door to collect myself.
I’ve followed this story closely, and I’m just stunned that, finally, an arrest has been made. Michelle Young had a two-year-old daughter at the time, who allegedly witnessed the brutal murder of her own mother. Michelle also was 20 weeks pregnant.
I just can’t comprehend this. Especially now, as a mother, I simply cannot wrap my brain around it. Why would someone do this? How could he or she (or they) do it?
It seems that the entire city of Raleigh has been grieving this tragedy for the last three years. I still see handmade signs around town offering reward money for information involving the case. But, as so much time passed, I began to wonder why no arrest had been made.
I pray that no matter what happens with this trial, Michelle’s family, especially her little girl, will be able to find peace.
(Click here for the full story.)
Tags: books for toddlers
Just finished putting Small Fry to bed. (Well, attempting is more like it. M is currently upstairs on his rock-the-baby-to-sleep shift.) Reading to her is one of my favorite things EVER, so I thought it would be fun to share Small Fry’s favorite books. Will update as new titles join our rotation.
Tags: crabtree valley mall, H&M, H&M in Raleigh
Look what I just read in the N&O: H&M is coming to Raleigh!
My sis turned me on to this cool shop, where trendy = affordable. We always try to hit H&M when we’re in D.C. or NYC, which isn’t very often. It’s like the IKEA effect (before the new Charlotte location opened this year). Buy as much as you can now, because you never know when you’ll be back.
Now I won’t have to shop like I’m stocking a Y2K cellar, since it’s going to be right here in town. Oh happy day.
Tags: postpartum depression, postpartum depression research, PPD, Reading
Is it possible to predict postpartum depression? This article in U.S. News & World Report says that Spanish researchers have developed models that could do it.
Of course, there are risk factors to look for, like a family history of depression. But to be able to predict what will happen to a woman after she gives birth seems too unreal, what with the hormone roller-coaster and other stuff (like sore boobs and surprise visitors) that isn’t easy to quantify in a scientific study.
At the same time, though, this research could result in better screening of pregnant women and new moms. Not to mention, raise awareness of an issue that really shouldn’t be taboo.
I’m encouraged. And hopeful that it will lead to good things for women’s health.
Tags: Kids, Motherhood, Reading
I never say OMG. But, for this post, I can’t think of a better way to begin.
Remember jelly bracelets? As a child of the 80s, I went through a major jelly phase. Shoes, bracelets. Especially the bracelets. I’d pull a couple dozen onto my arms, trying to make a fashion statement as a uniform-clad grade schooler.
From this shocking article I just read on Motherlode, kids are now using the bracelets to make much bigger statements.
Like I needed anything else to worry about when Small Fry hits puberty.